Entries by Dave Carr

How Old Would You Be If You Didn’t Know How Old You Are?

This is one of my favorite questions to ask others. The responses are interesting. Then there is the follow-up question, “Why would you be that age?” “There is a certain part of all of us that lives outside of time.” – Milan Kundera, Immortality While I am completely at peace with my current age and […]

Are Books Dumb?

Whenever I facilitate a retreat, a workshop, or a program, I take along books that are relevant to the topic(s) and put them on a table in the room. I would refer to key New York Times best-seller books, asking if participants were familiar with such an author or book. Much of the time, I’d […]

Is the Question More Important than the Answer?

As we come to the end of 2022, how you would answer the following questions? How would you sum up 2022 in 10 words? What is the most important lesson you learned this year? What was the failure that taught you a lesson? What accomplishment are you most proud of? What was your favorite memory of 2022? […]

Have You Had A Time To Die Which Led To Your Rebirth?

Recently I was invited by More Fearless Change authors, MaryLynn Manns and Linda Rising, to be a part of a virtual Fearless Change Campfire. I was asked to share a personal story about personal fearless change. Reading their book, I recognized several patterns of implementing change in my life. My story began after I graduated […]

How Are You Doing?

Recently, I received an email from a friend asking me about alternatives to the age-old-worn-out-daily-grind-rote-question, “How are you doing?”   What would be your alternative to this boring, unimaginative opening question?   Here are a few of my favorite “How are you doing?” alternatives:   What has your attention right now?  Why? Tell me more! (What has my attention is […]

How Can Darkness Cast Out Darkness?

We live in a time of darkness. That darkness is rooted in evil. The darkness seems overwhelming and feeds fear and breeds distrust. Besides the epidemics of opioids and COVID, we are also experiencing the epidemics of un-democracy, denial, ignorance, and assault weapons – all are rooted in darkness and fed by fear and distrust. […]

To Know the Past Is To Know the Present …

Potential coaching clients come to me with a problem or a desire to learn a new skill. In the initial session, we determine if I’m a good fit for them and what they would like to accomplish. If that shows promise, then the next session focuses on my knowing the individual’s history, including significant events, […]

Could We Make Life Less Difficult For One Another?

What do we live for, if not to make life less difficult for each other? – George Eliot, novelist, poet After pondering Eliot’s quote, I’ve decided to add difficulty to my core values of compassion, justice, and humility. The most difficult thing in life is to know yourself. – Thales of Miletus Let’s admit, knowledge […]

Seize Da Who Dey…It Didn’t Happen!

Happy Valentines Day! Many of us would be happier this morning if the Bengals had beaten the Rams in Super Bowl LVI. “Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon   CBS Sunday Morning, February 13, 2022, aired  The Agony of Defeat: Lessons From Football Fandom. I recommend watching this […]

Are You Participating in the “Great Resignation”?

As a growing number of people are walking away from work positions, climbing down from the “corporate ladder,” acknowledging burnout, and having a hard look in the mirror, there seems to be a greater need to talk through possibilities. The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity           – Dorothy Parker Our […]